A Real Friend for Me

"A  Real Friend is someone you can be alone with and have nothing to do and not be able to think of anything to say and be comfortable in the silence"

Someone asked me today, what is real friendship for me. Well, thinking about my friends over the years, I realize that in the past, where I would just one very close friend that I shared my secrets with and spent all my time with, I never looked to find more friends. For me one friend is enough. But as time passes by, and as I get along with others, I've noticed that some of them became to be my friends. I'm not used to have people around me, actually I used to avoid social scene. I prefer to be alone some time. Well, that's what Cancer in me. Haha!. Then as time went by, and maturity covers me, (well, i'm not sure if i am matured enough! wink*) I came to know that it's good to have more friends, in a different level of friendship. I have shallow and distant friendship. Where you would just hang up with and if there are times that you just want to have a good time. But it's really more different that you have friend where more likely is a kind of friend that you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had! A kind of friend that you can turn to whenever you need companion, even you don't say a word he/she would understand you from your silence.

Well, now It's a mix of both, I do have those close friends whom I trusted so much and shared lots of things about me and also I do have friends whom I only socialize with. But I love them all! They are all gifts for me, a blessings. Without them I couldn't imagine myself. Living alone in my own world, (not so bad.)

 I don't think I answered the question "what is real friendship for me". In my own opinion, is one who will be there in your most hard time, the one who tries to be there for you whenever you need them, and if they were unable to, they would tell you and they would explain the reason at least you know that they tried. The one who will not push you to do the things you don't want to, or to answer a question you don't want to answer and they would patiently wait you until you are ready enough. And someone who doesn't talk behind your back.